No Meddling, Please

Energy Healing is informed by psychotherapy, and utilizes many of the core concepts and interpretations of the Western therapeutic approach. But there is one important issue that healers – just like psychotherapists – must understand about their work with clients. No meddling, please.

Healers, like anyone in a position of authority, can fall into the trap where they believe they have the right to tell a client what they should do, what they should be dealing with, and what they feel are their main issues. Clients come to us vulnerable, looking for support, and very open to suggestion. They may even directly ask us for advice. It is easy enough to fall into the trap of meddling in the personal process of a client, rather than to help them uncover their own truth, their own priorities in their lives. Meddling – thinking we know what is best for the client – is dangerous and unethical. Plus, we often never get to see the results of our meddling.

So, what is meddling? If a client comes to me, and I say, “Your energy field is blocked; I’m going to re-adjust it in this healing, and your life will improve”, that’s meddling. But if I gently release blocks or remove astral restrictions in the client’s energy field, while listening to their experience, and together we track the choices that newly appear to them, I am assisting the client rather than meddling.

If a client tells me about their childhood, and I declare, “Oh, the issue with you is around your Father. We need to change your relationship to him with energy healing work,” that’s meddling. But if I listen to the client’s story, and track the relationship with her Father to know where in her energy field she needs support, then she may uncover her true feelings. With that, she will decide how the relationship must change, not I.

And, if a client comes for a session and I diagnose that, “You have an Oral Character Defense: we will work on how you unconsciously drain others of energy,” I am, once again, meddling. But if I support my client to increasingly shift their energetic wiring from an over-reliance on relational cording to others and into a self-corded, grounded condition, the client will inevitably choose the more balanced state. The shift in their ability to contain themselves can improve over time. I should not diagnose, or label; my job is to to support naturally-occurring change that is already emerging the moment the client contacts me.

Meddling gives a healer or therapist a false sense of power, an ego-identity boost. And the more we know about healing, or about the therapeutic process, the more potential there is for meddling. After all, we know things they do not. The alternative to meddling is for the healer to choose to remain innocent; to be curious and open as to what is needed for the client. We respect and follow a client’s process; they should not be made to conform to our preconceptions, or to our hidden agendas.

If there is a rule book to energy healing, it must include the edict: no meddling please. Yes, listen, track, remove obstructions, help improve a client’s inner resources and awareness … but leave the choices they make in their lives up to them. Respect their inner wisdom, even when they come to us struggling, in confusion, or in pain. Deep within a client’s conflict lies their hidden, soul-directed resolution to the issue, like a song bird locked in a cage. The healer’s job is only to unlock the cage. The client’s job is to fly away into freedom.

© 2013 by Dean Ramsden. All rights reserved.